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Granting Last Wishes of the Terminally Ill

By: Elizabeth Grace - Updated: 25 Sep 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Terminal Illness Support Wishes Happy

Those who are helping a loved one with a terminal illness often hope to offer more than love and support; they also want to understand the person’s last wishes in order to grant them some happy moments. There’s a feeling of urgency when time is short, so fulfilling the dying wishes of a friend or family member often becomes a top priority.

Unfulfilled Dreams of the Terminally Ill

Most people have a list of things that they hope to do “someday,” but for those with a terminal illness, someday may never come. Of course, no one, even the healthiest amongst us, can know how much longer we will live, but once someone has been made aware that their time is limited, their unfulfilled dreams may take on a new importance. “Someday” has to be right now. Those closest to a terminally ill patient may want to inquire as to any wishes that have yet to be fulfilled and then offer their support in trying to give their loved one a chance to achieve their goals.

Organisations that Grant Wishes for the Terminally Ill

There are a number of organisations that strive to grant last wishes for terminally ill children and adults. Some of these are quite well-known and can be quickly located by performing an Internet search using the words, “granting wishes for the terminally ill.” Other, smaller groups may be available, too, but may not be quite as easy to locate. Sometimes, churches, civic organisations, and other local groups unite to raise funds for a member of their community, in order to allow them to experience their dreams and leave their loved ones with happy memories.

Simple Wishes

When we think of helping someone with a terminal illness to fulfil their last wishes, we often envision extravagant holidays, visits with celebrities, or wildly adventurous experiences, but for many, their wishes are quite simple. Many people hope to have a family reunion, go on an aeroplane ride, ride a horse, learn to play a musical instrument, or other such uncomplicated experience. None of these wishes would be especially difficult or expensive to achieve, but they would require some planning. Only by asking someone with a terminal illness what they’d still like to experience can loved ones begin to make arrangements to grant those last wishes. Most people are eager to be helping someone find as many happy moments as possible, but they just don’t know where to begin.

Making Peace and Tying up Loose Ends

Some last wishes have nothing to do with experiencing new things, but instead are all about achieving peace of mind. Family squabbles, long lost loves, and unexpressed emotions can leave people feel uneasy, worried that they will leave without tying up important loose ends. For others, their concerns are for their survivors and assuring that they will leave their loved ones with sufficient finances to support them throughout the bereavement period and beyond. Finally, some only feel a sense of peace once they’ve seen to their funeral and burial arrangements, choosing to personally preplan their services.

Last wishes of the terminally ill are likely to be as unique as the individuals themselves, with no two people hoping for exactly the same experience. In the end, what matters most is that terminally ill patients are given opportunities to express their desires and then to be offered caring support from those that matter to them the most.

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My friend Julie Egan is terminally ill with lung cancer don’t know how long she as, but as always wanted to go to Paris. I don’t know how to go about someone who’s terminally ill and getting their wish. Could you please contact me thank you
Pinkabella - 25-Sep-18 @ 7:10 PM
My husband as brain cancer and lung cancer it’s turmoil not sure how long he has left he is only 47 we are in shock
Mo - 4-Jul-18 @ 1:03 PM
Maheen has cornelia de lange syndrome with lots of severe disability and heart disease. She never went to see Disney land Paris to meet her favourite Disney characters. She will love to enjoy her special trip to Disney land Paris. If you please give her this opportunity to enjoy her special life time memorable few days.
Maheen khan - 29-May-18 @ 4:35 AM
Maheen has cornelia de lange syndrome with lots of severe disability and heart disease. She never went to see Disney land Paris to meet her favourite Disney characters. If possible can you give her this opportunity to enjoy her special trip to Disney land. LOG
Maheen khan - 29-May-18 @ 4:31 AM
Hi, I have a friend that has been diagnosed with cancer of the windpipe, I believe it is a new cancer and is going down in the cancer books, they have only offered him 4 lots of chemotherapy and he has had his 2nd one, he is becoming weaker, he and his partner have decided to get married, she really don't know how she is going to cope without him and is trying to make memories for him, one of the things that he wants to do is to meet or talk to Robbie Williams. I tried to contact him on twitter and I had a message from what I thought was Robbie but it was some fake guy who lead me on telling me he was going to meet them. I only realised this week that he was fake and had to tell them both it really hurt and disappointed them. Please can you help, I really don't think he has much time left
Shelly - 27-May-18 @ 6:02 PM
Hi my long time friend Jason kessna was took into hospital 3 weeks ago he is 48years old , with severe headaches , unfortunately he was diadnised with front and back brain tumours inside the brain and lung cancer , there is nothing they can do for him and have gave him life expectancy of 2-4 months , his family just want to take him away for a break to the sea side somewhere to make him a few memories
Jules - 10-May-18 @ 2:04 AM
My husband is terminal ill and has been told that his heart condition is getting worse . He used to work as a roado for queen so his last wish would be to see Bryan may one last time and to speak to him. And we don't know how much time we have left. He is getting weaker by the day as he's been bedbound for three weeks.
Bella knox - 17-Apr-18 @ 6:45 PM
I would like to make my new husband last wish to meet bryan may again one last time so that he can say goodbye to the memories of his roaddo days. He's terminal ill with multiple health issues and at the minute is bedbounddue to his colon cancer . We don't know how long he has left as it is his heart condition that will sadly take him .
Bella blot - 13-Apr-18 @ 3:52 PM
My mother-in-law has Adenocarcinoma and we don't know how long she has but it's incurable. Sadly one wish she would like to fulfill is to see and meet Kylie. Ironically we found out she's touring but when we looked at tickets they are £165 each and don't know if she would still be here! That's so expensive and we can't afford it plus I could never arrange for her to meet Kylie. I feel hopeless so we're just fulfilling her other wish which is fish & chips at her favourite chippy every Saturday.
Kawasaki - 10-Apr-18 @ 8:14 AM
Hi my sister is terminally ill with cancer and is a raising her 4and half year old granddaughter on her own we have been told that its now a matter of months she has to live her wish is for a weeks holiday with her granddaughter to pontins or another type of holiday camp site so that they can spend time and hopefully get some really good memories
Val - 17-Mar-18 @ 10:58 AM
Hi my mom name is Evelyn iler she is 76yrs has liver cancer we don't know how long she has not very long I don't think. She wants to have her family bills to be pd off and her handicap daughter will not have no parents to take care of her just her sister we life with.we can't work she can't drive a car.she needs a two seater scooter mobiliy power buggy to get around in outside.also mom want s a home with three master bedroom one with a bathroom of her own in bedroom. And two other bathrooms pet friendly fenced in yard no stairs inside or out two car garage pd in full with this house were no rent no payments she wants her family secured before she passes away.we tryed keep her alive but cancer wins hands down She worked so hard now she can't finished it please help my mom fill her wish.we love to live in mount Vernon illinois with free in Clare with no bills and no worries about money coming in her handicap daughter will be alone living with justed her sister and her husband she needs money in her account and so does her sister please help me fill my mom wish come true for real she in hospital SSM Hospital. Evelyn don't know how long she be there this is a surprise for her she doesn't know I'm asking on her behalf she doesn't like computers.please help shave a wish come true for her thank u. Sincerely connie her daughter.
Connie - 8-Mar-18 @ 8:02 PM
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Hi my name is Mrs wendy l am married to my childhood sweetheart Paul he's always been the home maker but in 1995 somethink terrible happen he ended up with a brain tumour of whip the drs only gave him 12 months to live we was all heartbroken including my two children who at the time was very small. He had a six week course of radiation as was given the all clear we all thought fantastic we can get on with our lives again. But a year ago we was given another blow not only the tumour came back but another one also grew in his Clivas which is rapidly growing my husband had deteriated rapid. He can't walk without aids and he no longer want to go out. Both of our children are grown up and left home where I'm caring for him. Our biggest problem we face is Pauls always have done our DIY in our home and he's said he would love to replace our patio doors as the runner that slides the door is not working and we can open and shut the the door as it's very heavy and not working properly paul loves his garden but he only looks through to the garden through the window. My home is council but because we put them in we have to put them right. Also money is very tight I would love to get this done for him to put his mind at ease if anything bad goes wrong for him I know it's playing on his mind as he's says everyday how he wishes he can have the strength just to put this right before he dies which could be any day so we was wondering if you know of anyone who can help us we would be so grateful beyond words. Thanks for kindness even if it's just a lending ear. Mr and Mrs leggett it would be a great surprise for Paul so I've left you my number to contact me. Thanks

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TerminalIllness - 26-Feb-18 @ 3:52 PM
Hi my name is Mrs wendy l am married to my childhood sweetheart Paul he's always been the home maker but in 1995 somethink terrible happen he ended up with a brain tumour of whip the drs only gave him 12 months to live we was all heartbroken including my two children who at the time was very small. He had a six week course of radiation as was given the all clear we all thought fantastic we can get on with our lives again. But a year ago we was given another blow not only the tumour came back but another one also grew in his Clivas which is rapidly growing my husband had deteriated rapid. He can't walk without aids and he no longer want to go out. Both of our children are grown up and left home where I'm caring for him. Our biggest problem we face is Pauls always have done our DIY in our home and he's said he would love to replace our patio doors as the runner that slides the door is not working and we can open and shut the the door as it's very heavy and not working properly paul loves his garden but he only looks through to the garden through the window. My home is council but because we put them in we have to put them right. Also money is very tight I would love to get this done for him to put his mind at ease if anything bad goes wrong for him I know it's playing on his mind as he's says everyday how he wishes he can have the strength just to put this right before he dies which could be any day so we was wondering if you know of anyone who can help us we would be so grateful beyond words. Thanks for kindness even if it's just a lending ear. Mr and Mrs leggett it would be a great surprise for Paul so I've left you my number to contact me. Thanks
Wendywoo - 23-Feb-18 @ 8:30 PM
I am a huge fan of Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers have been all my life as that is who I grew up listening to.I have always wanted to see Dollywood since I came across an article I believe it was about the Christmas lights how they are lite up until Jan 3d. I know it isn't to long before it ends and I'm hoping and praying this wish will come true. I don't have much longer due to end stage for severe gastroparies and the Dr telling me it was time to stop the TPNand fluids and call in the family I just wish not to meet her but to just be able to go to this one last event.just me and my husband as we could never afford a trip like that I've been checking on pricing for hotels and cabin rentals as sometimes they give package deals if you book with them I have been doing this day and night until I can't think about anything else but what a beautiful memory that would be I can't afford the gas either please let me know it you can help me I am on Southern Care Recency hospice out of GA my number is (478)233-8416 or you can reach my husband at (478)250-3386 he is my pimary care taker now when he is off work and my daughter Christina (478)233-7114 who was my primary caretaker but had to get a job as she is raising two kids my grandson who is 3 and my grand daughter who is my other daughters child she is 13 and with the prices to get in and food rooms etc I won't ask for all that help plus need the get away
Dorene - 30-Dec-17 @ 2:36 PM
Hi, I have very very recently been told I have Stage 4 cancer that is in my lungs and gone to my brain and liver. The cancer doctor also thinks that I have it iis my bones.I’ve was told this last week, Friday the 15-12-2017, at Oncology that I have s few weeks to a few months to live. I do not know how to do this make a wish thing however I would really really like to have my Mims, Dads and baby sisters grave fixed up as my Dad hasn’t even got a Head stone in it!!!I would also like to be cremated and choose my own Urn Etc asap. I am 57 years old have 3 adult children. Does anyone know how you donghis make a wish thing? Thank you
Carol - 16-Dec-17 @ 7:25 PM
My loving sister who is also my best friend was diagnosed a few months ago with glioblastoma brain cancer and has only a short while possibly weeks to live. This has been devastating to see how quickly this has taken over since she had an awake craniotomy to remove the tumour only for it to grow back after a few months. Although this has affected her left side arm and leg and left her imobile she is still alert and holds a conversation. All she can focus on is her nephew and his fiancee who are getting married 28th Dec and she was so looking forward to going and planned her dress etc. Please god she is still with us at Christmas and I would love to make her dream come true just to see them get married and then return home.We would need help getting her dressed then into wheel chair and transport to venue from Herts to Essexand assistance home and back to bed.
Champion - 4-Dec-17 @ 3:00 PM
My sister has mms and I’m her last stage I am her sister I live oz I have come back my my little girl to be her full time carer and to have her boys to take them back home with me. I have left my boys and husband at home I have been here for months. Christmas is coming and my sisters last wish is to have us all together for her last Christma here pls can you help at all
Pip - 15-Nov-17 @ 9:23 PM
I have beeing diagnosed with terminal Cancer just over 12 moonrhs ago. Only to hear that my dad is also terminal with Prosate cancer. We have now learned my mum is very ill and cancer has been discussed to which as I know all to well and the tell tale signs that she will be termi nap too. A holiday as a family away would be the most amazing last good bye together but this is not.possible.this is my last wish. They are separated but great friends. As to being so many this will never happen. I know this is just a wish but just wanted to write it down. Thanks for l listening.
Alans123 - 30-Oct-17 @ 11:40 PM
My mummy is 57 years old. She has been in and out hospital for 1 year with severe pain in her right rib, breathlessness,tiredness,constant chest infections. She had a bowel scan in August 2016. We went in January to find that the bowel specialist discovered a tumour on her right lung. He was furious that my mummy had not been sent for with 5 months prior. Within 2 weeks my mummy was diagnosed with lung cancer. Then 2 weeks later. Stage 4 lubg cancer with secondary bone cancer in her 6 rib on the right side. That was why my mummy was in so much pain. By the time they got to her it was to advanced. It is now in her t7.8.9 vertabrae. She has had 2 treatments of radiotherapy and is now palative.My only brother died died 10 years ago. He was 18. I am her only daughter. My mummys wish is to get married to her partner. She has been with him 13 years.Not a big wedding but a family gathering.
Kell - 27-Oct-17 @ 9:06 PM
My mom has terminal breast and lung cancer and has serious mobility problems and cannot get down the stairs to the bathroom to bath, her wish would be to have a stairs lift fitted to allow her to have the dignity of bathing.
Ian - 3-Oct-17 @ 2:20 PM
Have terminal cancer my wish is to Marry my partner in a low key ceremony .would be so grateful for any help or funds to do this
Carol - 23-Sep-17 @ 4:22 PM
Hi I was wondering how I go about getting the Southampton football team to meet my husband who has terminal lung cancer? Or to go to a match and meet them or even meet Kyle monogue x
Sarah - 6-Aug-17 @ 11:21 PM
I am a mother of 4 children 2 are my biological and 2 I foster them when they was 2weeks. And 6 weeks. I adopted both before they turn 5years old Now they are 19 and 18 years old They both was exposed to drugd by their biological mom. In 2001 i was diagnosis with rigjt breast cancer. I wennt through chemo and radiation. Every since then my health has spiral down. I am currently fighting Lupus, Congested heart failure, i have a pacemaker, anemia, HtN, blood clot in jugular vein, evulated. For multiplle myeloma, End Stage Renal Disease (dialysis) 3 times a week. Now a new problem my central vein constantly getting clogged. Have to get it unclogged 2-3times a month in order to get dialysis. I am dying and I know it. My money is very limited and if and when I pass my children will be homeless. My oldedt daughter lives with me and is helping. I wish that someone would help her get a stable home for them. Help her with a deposit or pay her rent in a nice place for a year. She desire to go to law school and to receive help will free her up to be able to focus. MY WISH IS TO HELPP MY FAMILY IN YHEIR LIVING ARRANGEMENTS. SO THEY WILL MOT BE HOMELESS. WE PRESENTLY ARE RENTING A HOUSE THAT COST 1375.00 MONTHLY. MY HEALTH IS FAILING AND I CAN NOT WORK. SS. IS ONLY 723 A MONTH.
Renee - 7-Jul-17 @ 7:54 AM
Worked in rethread plant 35 years has respiratory. Failure and coronary. Disease. On oxygen24hr a day would like to see the beach in al about 5hrs from our home need help with hotel thank you his sister watching him die everyday
Kd - 6-Jul-17 @ 1:24 AM
Searching for a wish charity for adults , can you help ? Many thanks
H - 2-Jul-17 @ 5:51 PM
My mom was diagnosed with, end stage cirrhosis of the liver. Dr says she will more than likely not be with us by next year. I went to Cancun Mexico in 2014. Ever since I went, my mom wants to go. She says to me a couple of weeks ago, Amanda, I've never got to ride on a plane, or leave the country. We have the hotel, and destination picked out. Cancun Mexico, hotel is, Oasis Sens, Adults only. I been looking online and for two people, all inclusive, food, drinks, round trip tickets, and hotel for 7 days and 7 nights, (same one I went through) is between $1,400.00 - 2,000.00 but includes literally EVERYTHING. Seeing my mom like this, has taken a toll on me, as I'm sure it has her. The drs took her off the transplant list, bc her body mass index, is so low, the surgery takes 10-12 hours, and that's without complications. Her body would have to live off her own fat, while she recuperates. They stated, she wouldn't even make it off the operating table. My mom doesn't have much long. As the Dr said, we probably won't have her by next year. So I so want to fulfill her one and only wish. My mom don't drink, so it's odd she got end stage cirrhosis of the liver. I could possibly even pay for myself, I just can't afford both of us. Someone told me about this site and other's, so I'm reaching out for your help. Thank you, and please continue to pray for her. Thank you!
Vicky&Amanda - 28-Jun-17 @ 1:20 PM
My wife has terminal cancer and has been battling this illness for over 2 years now. It started of as breast cancer so she had a double machectomy and reconstruction,spread to her lungs chest wall and now brain and her last wish is to meet either robbin Williams
Lee - 12-May-17 @ 10:39 AM
My daughter in law has an in operable brain tumour for over two years and has now been told there is no more treatment she can have. Her wish is to be able to get to disney paris with her two chi den 10 and 15 and I would love to make it come true but have no idea how to go about it or the cost. She deserves this last trip as she is a great person and a lovely mother and has hardly been out of the house in two years
doris - 9-May-17 @ 6:44 PM
My brother has heart failure due to hemachromatosis. He's been in and out of the house been on for 2 1/2 years and finally they released him and said there's nothing more they can do for him. Because of his internal bleeding they took him off of his blood thinners he has an LVADkeeping his heart pumping. Which needs a blood thinner to function. The doctors have told us he has not much time left. I'm trying to find somebody to help me fill a dying wish for him. He says he doesn't want to go anywhere he just needs to get his affairs in order. I need him to have some kind of fun. If anybody has any ideas what can help me I'd greatly appreciate it .
My dying brother - 1-Apr-17 @ 11:48 PM
My wish is to drive down a motorway in a convertible car. And go into a sea food restaurant and eat loads of stuff I've never tried. Been diagnosed with terminally ill ovarian and bowel cancer . It's the simple things in life .????
Trisha - 5-Mar-17 @ 10:27 AM
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