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Granting Last Wishes of the Terminally Ill

By: Elizabeth Grace - Updated: 16 Jul 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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Those who are helping a loved one with a terminal illness often hope to offer more than love and support; they also want to understand the person’s last wishes in order to grant them some happy moments. There’s a feeling of urgency when time is short, so fulfilling the dying wishes of a friend or family member often becomes a top priority.

Unfulfilled Dreams of the Terminally Ill

Most people have a list of things that they hope to do “someday,” but for those with a terminal illness, someday may never come. Of course, no one, even the healthiest amongst us, can know how much longer we will live, but once someone has been made aware that their time is limited, their unfulfilled dreams may take on a new importance. “Someday” has to be right now. Those closest to a terminally ill patient may want to inquire as to any wishes that have yet to be fulfilled and then offer their support in trying to give their loved one a chance to achieve their goals.

Organisations that Grant Wishes for the Terminally Ill

There are a number of organisations that strive to grant last wishes for terminally ill children and adults. Some of these are quite well-known and can be quickly located by performing an Internet search using the words, “granting wishes for the terminally ill.” Other, smaller groups may be available, too, but may not be quite as easy to locate. Sometimes, churches, civic organisations, and other local groups unite to raise funds for a member of their community, in order to allow them to experience their dreams and leave their loved ones with happy memories.

Simple Wishes

When we think of helping someone with a terminal illness to fulfil their last wishes, we often envision extravagant holidays, visits with celebrities, or wildly adventurous experiences, but for many, their wishes are quite simple. Many people hope to have a family reunion, go on an aeroplane ride, ride a horse, learn to play a musical instrument, or other such uncomplicated experience. None of these wishes would be especially difficult or expensive to achieve, but they would require some planning. Only by asking someone with a terminal illness what they’d still like to experience can loved ones begin to make arrangements to grant those last wishes. Most people are eager to be helping someone find as many happy moments as possible, but they just don’t know where to begin.

Making Peace and Tying up Loose Ends

Some last wishes have nothing to do with experiencing new things, but instead are all about achieving peace of mind. Family squabbles, long lost loves, and unexpressed emotions can leave people feel uneasy, worried that they will leave without tying up important loose ends. For others, their concerns are for their survivors and assuring that they will leave their loved ones with sufficient finances to support them throughout the bereavement period and beyond. Finally, some only feel a sense of peace once they’ve seen to their funeral and burial arrangements, choosing to personally preplan their services.

Last wishes of the terminally ill are likely to be as unique as the individuals themselves, with no two people hoping for exactly the same experience. In the end, what matters most is that terminally ill patients are given opportunities to express their desires and then to be offered caring support from those that matter to them the most.

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I am a mother of 4 children 2 are my biological and 2 I foster them when they was 2weeks. And 6 weeks. I adopted both before they turn 5years old Now they are 19 and 18 years old They both was exposed to drugd by their biological mom. In 2001 i was diagnosis with rigjt breast cancer. I wennt through chemo and radiation. Every since then my health has spiral down. I am currently fighting Lupus, Congested heart failure, i have a pacemaker, anemia, HtN, blood clot in jugular vein, evulated. For multiplle myeloma, End Stage Renal Disease (dialysis) 3 times a week. Now a new problem my central vein constantly getting clogged. Have to get it unclogged 2-3times a month in order to get dialysis. I am dying and I know it. My money is very limited and if and when I pass my children will be homeless. My oldedt daughter lives with me and is helping. I wish that someone would help her get a stable home for them. Help her with a deposit or pay her rent in a nice place for a year. She desire to go to law school and to receive help will free her up to be able to focus. MY WISH IS TO HELPP MY FAMILY IN YHEIR LIVING ARRANGEMENTS. SO THEY WILL MOT BE HOMELESS. WE PRESENTLY ARE RENTING A HOUSE THAT COST 1375.00 MONTHLY. MY HEALTH IS FAILING AND I CAN NOT WORK. SS. IS ONLY 723 A MONTH.
Renee - 7-Jul-17 @ 7:54 AM
Worked in rethread plant 35 years has respiratory. Failure and coronary. Disease. On oxygen24hr a day would like to see the beach in al about 5hrs from our home need help with hotel thank you his sister watching him die everyday
Kd - 6-Jul-17 @ 1:24 AM
Searching for a wish charity for adults , can you help ? Many thanks
H - 2-Jul-17 @ 5:51 PM
My mom was diagnosed with, end stage cirrhosis of the liver. Dr says she will more than likely not be with us by next year. I went to Cancun Mexico in 2014. Ever since I went, my mom wants to go. She says to me a couple of weeks ago, Amanda, I've never got to ride on a plane, or leave the country. We have the hotel, and destination picked out. Cancun Mexico, hotel is, Oasis Sens, Adults only. I been looking online and for two people, all inclusive, food, drinks, round trip tickets, and hotel for 7 days and 7 nights, (same one I went through) is between $1,400.00 - 2,000.00 but includes literally EVERYTHING. Seeing my mom like this, has taken a toll on me, as I'm sure it has her. The drs took her off the transplant list, bc her body mass index, is so low, the surgery takes 10-12 hours, and that's without complications. Her body would have to live off her own fat, while she recuperates. They stated, she wouldn't even make it off the operating table. My mom doesn't have much long. As the Dr said, we probably won't have her by next year. So I so want to fulfill her one and only wish. My mom don't drink, so it's odd she got end stage cirrhosis of the liver. I could possibly even pay for myself, I just can't afford both of us. Someone told me about this site and other's, so I'm reaching out for your help. Thank you, and please continue to pray for her. Thank you!
Vicky&Amanda - 28-Jun-17 @ 1:20 PM
My wife has terminal cancer and has been battling this illness for over 2 years now. It started of as breast cancer so she had a double machectomy and reconstruction,spread to her lungs chest wall and now brain and her last wish is to meet either robbin Williams
Lee - 12-May-17 @ 10:39 AM
My daughter in law has an in operable brain tumour for over two years and has now been told there is no more treatment she can have. Her wish is to be able to get to disney paris with her two chi den 10 and 15 and I would love to make it come true but have no idea how to go about it or the cost. She deserves this last trip as she is a great person and a lovely mother and has hardly been out of the house in two years
doris - 9-May-17 @ 6:44 PM
My brother has heart failure due to hemachromatosis. He's been in and out of the house been on for 2 1/2 years and finally they released him and said there's nothing more they can do for him. Because of his internal bleeding they took him off of his blood thinners he has an LVADkeeping his heart pumping. Which needs a blood thinner to function. The doctors have told us he has not much time left. I'm trying to find somebody to help me fill a dying wish for him. He says he doesn't want to go anywhere he just needs to get his affairs in order. I need him to have some kind of fun. If anybody has any ideas what can help me I'd greatly appreciate it .
My dying brother - 1-Apr-17 @ 11:48 PM
My wish is to drive down a motorway in a convertible car. And go into a sea food restaurant and eat loads of stuff I've never tried. Been diagnosed with terminally ill ovarian and bowel cancer . It's the simple things in life .????
Trisha - 5-Mar-17 @ 10:27 AM
My son Alan is in heart failure. He has had an lvad fitted to his heart preparing him for a heart transplant. Only to find he won't be able to have one. His kidneys are failing him and he is terminally ill. He is 43 married with 2 young children. I'm praying you may help. I would love him to meet Brian May or Roger Taylor before we lose him. Words couldn't express how grateful all his family would be. Alan has always been a big Queen fan. He is unaware of my wishes for him to avoid disappointment. Thanking you in anticipation.
Wills - 28-Feb-17 @ 11:29 AM
My grandfather has recently been diagnosed with small cell lung cancer,which is the more aggressive type and is inoperable due to the fact he's also in heart failure and doctors have said it would be too risky to operate and most cases in this type of cancer they don't usually operate. With the only hope of radiotherapy and chemo it wasn't long after we were told that this doesn't look very hopeful either because he has a pacemaker,so radiotherapy is a no go because this could interact with the pacemaker and cause it to stop working and his heart isn't strong enough to work on its own, and chemo can't be used because they have now said his kidneys aren't strong enough to flush the chemo through and could lead him into dialysis :'( so either way there's not a lot they can do for my grandad. Times are extremely hard right now to say the least! As a little girl who was left by my parents from the age of 3 my nan and grandad decided to fight for custody for me and brought me up as their own. My grandad became my bestest and dearest friend a girl could ever ever ask for! He is so very very dear to me! On the 30th June 2017 mine and my pops day will arrive where he gets to walk me down the aisle and give me away which has been my biggest dream since I was just 5! There is no other person on this planet who deserves to give me away than him! Due to family commitments and taking care of my grandparents,back and forth to hospitals for tests and procedures and results over a period of 12 months,ontop of looking after my son who is recovering a massive operation and has a diagnosis of cerebral palsythis has caused a massive financial impact on us how we will be able to come up with the funds to pay for our wedding venue! I'm frightened that if I have to cancel my wedding my pops will never get the opportunity to give me away again and it will be too late! I'm waiting to start a new job but it's taking a while and has become very stressful because I will have to be working full time hours and won't be able to spend that quality time with my grandfather whilst he gets sick and my grandparents need me to help them. Seeing the physical changes of someone you love more than life starting to look sick from that awful disease is by far the most painful and frightening thing to ever experience! I don't know if there is anyone out there or an organisation that could help us but you'd be fulfilling not just mine,but my grandfather and grandmothers dream to see all the hard work they've have done in bringing me pay off and that they can enjoy this wedding just as much as me without all the stress and strain with the build up ontop of everything else going on. Words are not enough to explain how much this would mean to us. Thanks for reading. Anita
Anita - 22-Feb-17 @ 9:32 AM
I have a friend who is only 27. She is fighting for her life,but doctors only have her 6 moths to live. She has malignant cancer. I would like to do do something to help her go in peace. Not sure what her last wish would be. She will be leaving behind 2 kids and a husban. I feel so bad for her and would love for her to go with wonderful memories please help us help her.
Letty - 19-Feb-17 @ 7:12 PM
My daughter, Amanda, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia march 16, 2015. She never left the hospital. She passed on August 24, 2016. It was a shock. She left behind a beautiful 6 year old daughter. Zoey didn't get to be with her much since we were 6 hours away. Their love was wonderful & beautiful. Amanda was an excellent mother. She had told Zoey that one day we, the family, would hopefully go to visit Ireland a dream Amanda had from childhood. When Amanda passed & we told Zoey she asked if we could take mommy to Ireland. Amanda was crematedafter we donated her body, due to all the things she had caught and complications. Zoey & her aunts thought it would be wonderful if they could leave some ashes in Ireland. I didn't know if this is possible to have the opportunity or not. If this is too much please forgive. We would not want to take away from someone else. Amanda did tell Zoey that she wanted very much to have the opportunity to be the first one to take her to Disney World and Universal, for Harry Potter attraction.I told her if she could not that we would try. She wanted very much to visit all of Disney and had hope to let her have the princess experience where I think they get to sleep in the castle for a time. Since Zoey was sick and premature at birth we allowed Amanda to raise Zoey and not work, Amanda too was sickly, until Zoey was in kindergarten. Amanda almost made it. Amanda was dying when she collapsed and a year and 2 months later Zoey lost her world. Her daddy contributes nothing & has 2 days a month supervised visitation. We, Zoey's grandparents, have temporary custody for now. And hope to get total custody in March.Zoey is our valentine baby and she will be seven years old this month.I don't know if there's anything that you or some other organization can do but it would be greatly appreciated if you would let me know something, or let me know who I can contact to see if we could do something special for Zoey. She's had a very hard time coping with the loss of her mother. Unfortunately, we do not have the funds or income to give either one of these desires my beautiful daughter had. But, if love was enough to grant them then we could take Zoey to the edge of the Universe and beyond. We appreciate anything that you could do and we thank you for your time and consideration. God bless.
Cricket & Lovie - 4-Feb-17 @ 11:05 AM
My daughter, Amanda, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia march 16, 2015. She never left the hospital. She passed on August 24, 2016. It was a shock. She left behind a beautiful 6 year old daughter. Zoey didn't get to be with her much since we were 6 hours away. Their love was wonderful & beautiful. Amanda was an excellent mother. She had told Zoey that one day we, the family, would hopefully go to visit Ireland a dream Amanda had from childhood. When Amanda passed & we told Zoey she asked if we could take mommy to Ireland. Amanda was crematedafter we donated her body, due to all the things she had caught and complications. Zoey & her aunts thought it would be wonderful if they could leave some ashes in Ireland. I didn't know if this is possible to have the opportunity or not. If this is too much please forgive. We would not want to take away from someone else. Amanda did tell Zoey that she wanted very much to have the opportunity to be the first one to take her to Disney World and Universal, for Harry Potter attraction.I told her if she could not that we would try. She wanted very much to visit all of Disney and had hope to let her have the princess experience where I think they get to sleep in the castle for a time. Since Zoey was sick and premature at birth we allowed Amanda to raise Zoey and not work, Amanda too was sickly, until Zoey was in kindergarten. Amanda almost made it. Amanda was dying when she collapsed and a year and 2 months later Zoey lost her world. Her daddy contributes nothing & has 2 days a month supervised visitation. We, Zoey's grandparents, have temporary custody for now. And hope to get total custody in March.Zoey is our valentine baby and she will be seven years old this month.I don't know if there's anything that you or some other organization can do but it would be greatly appreciated if you would let me know something, or let me know who I can contact to see if we could do something special for Zoey. She's had a very hard time coping with the loss of her mother. Unfortunately, we do not have the funds or income to give either one of these desires my beautiful daughter had. But, if love was enough to grant them then we could take Zoey to the edge of the Universe and beyond. We appreciate anything that you could do and we thank you for your time and consideration. God bless.
Cricket & Lovie - 4-Feb-17 @ 11:03 AM
My daughter, Amanda, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia march 16, 2015. She never left the hospital. She passed on August 24, 2016. It was a shock. She left behind a beautiful 6 year old daughter. Zoey didn't get to be with her much since we were 6 hours away. Their love was wonderful & beautiful. Amanda was an excellent mother. She had told Zoey that one day we, the family, would hopefully go to visit Ireland a dream Amanda had from childhood. When Amanda passed & we told Zoey she asked if we could take mommy to Ireland. Amanda was crematedafter we donated her body, due to all the things she had caught and complications. Zoey & her aunts thought it would be wonderful if they could leave some ashes in Ireland. I didn't know if this is possible to have the opportunity or not. If this is too much please forgive. We would not want to take away from someone else. Amanda did tell Zoey that she wanted very much to have the opportunity to be the first one to take her to Disney World and Universal, for Harry Potter attraction.I told her if she could not that we would try. She wanted very much to visit all of Disney and had hope to let her have the princess experience where I think they get to sleep in the castle for a time. Since Zoey was sick and premature at birth we allowed Amanda to raise Zoey and not work, Amanda too was sickly, until Zoey was in kindergarten. Amanda almost made it. Amanda was dying when she collapsed and a year and 2 months later Zoey lost her world. Her daddy contributes nothing & has 2 days a month supervised visitation. We, Zoey's grandparents, have temporary custody for now. And hope to get total custody in March.Zoey is our valentine baby and she will be seven years old this month.I don't know if there's anything that you or some other organization can do but it would be greatly appreciated if you would let me know something, or let me know whoCAR I can contact to see if we could do something special for Zoey. She's had a very hard time coping with the loss of her mother.We appreciate anything that you could do and we thank you for your time and consideration. God bless. Mrs. Clemmie Young
Cricket & Lovie - 4-Feb-17 @ 10:55 AM
on june 14th this year i was diagnosed with small cell cancer in my liver,spine and bone.terminal,this is inoperable. as it is in the cells .I am unable to work at this time. as for how long i have got i dont know . I would love to take my 8yr old son to disneyland florida with my wife if anybody could help me fulfil my last wish i would appreciate it I have never asked for charity before butneeds must.thank you for reading this. david....
none - 30-Jan-17 @ 5:00 PM
My Mum is so Precious To me I would do almost any thing for her.Unfortunately my mum has beendiagnosed with Breast and liver cancer, which is terminal and I can't make her better. I am looking after my mum now because my dad is losing his sight, also has hadmajor heart surgery and he also has atumour on his kidney. My dad is not terminal I'll. Thank goodness. My mum has only got a few months ( If she is lucky, and God willing ) My mum has had to fight all her life because she was born with Club Feet. My farther was at sea most of the time so my mum brought my two brothers and myself up on her own. What a fantastic job she has done, with so much love and attention and in hard times. It's her Birthday next week.My mum is very weak now So she is in bed most of the time. I just wish I could give her the best Birthday ever. It's difficult when you can't get out of bed. Is there a Birthday Wish out there please.
Babs - 18-Jan-17 @ 2:22 PM
Hopeing for help with a family vacation , we have never had one due to my 11& 6 yrold health issues heart disease , Noonans syndrome ect ..And also my current health Brain cancer GBM , any help would be appreciated, thanks much ..
XXX - 17-Jan-17 @ 4:24 PM
I have a very dear friend who is now in her last year. She has a rare kind of cancer that was asbestos related. She is only in her early 30's and has a beautiful young daughter of 5. My friend has the kindest heart and the purest of souls. Her wish until we sadly loose her is to give as many memories as she can to her girl. Therefore Christmas just gone was spent in France with her daughters fathers family. My friend is now finding it incredibly difficult as she realises Chris 2017 may be the first she isn't here for. I would love to give her and her family that are here with her that "one last Christmas " nothing extravagant or over the top. Just one extra memory for her girl to keep with her. Where and how do I find help to do this please?
Cj77rj66 - 12-Jan-17 @ 8:20 PM
I wanted to apply a wish grant for my disabled daughter to Disney Florida. My daughter is physically disabled has stiffness in her 4 llimbs she needs to be cared 24 hours. This would be a life time holiday would be very grateful if you can support us. Many thanks
Maryam - 30-Dec-16 @ 12:03 AM
My husband whom I met at 16 is terminally Ill from bowel cancer that has spread to liver lungs and peritoneum. He has a prognosis of three months. We lost our beloved daughter to cancer aged 33. My husband is my life I would love memorable day for him to show him how much he is loved
Dick - 9-Dec-16 @ 10:48 PM
My Mother in Law has been diagnosed with Cancer, The hospital said we can't do chemo because it's too far advanced. So they are currently treating infections and doing Pain management. A local hospice is involved. It's been so quick that we are all shocked and still coming to terms with it all. The advice I'm seeking is A wish fullfillment, It was always her wish to Take her Grand Kids to Florida (they are 2yrs old and 3) To go to Harry Potter at Universal. We were waiting until the Kids were older, and so we could save up to afford it. Time has been taken from us. So now, I would like to make this happen for her, but she is SO unwell, the logistics and medical support we would require is beyond my knowledge. Can someone help. We can pay for some of the costs, (and I would be willing to pay it off for the rest of my life hereafter, if it meant we could do this for her) can we get Her to Florida with her grand Kids? Can anyone help. Time is short. We'd need a lot of help arranging medical people, and special hospitality from the airlines and parks etc. It really would be a wish/dream.
Awesomenatious - 12-Nov-16 @ 12:02 PM
We are looking for help V fill his last wish which is going to Disney with his family we do not know how to do this or go about it any help is appreciated
Landshark - 9-Nov-16 @ 1:54 AM
Need help trying to sell his wish
Landshark - 9-Nov-16 @ 1:52 AM
Don't know exactly what this setting is but my boyfriend is terminally ill he has stage 4 colon and liver cancer they have stopped the chemo hospice has just started coming in and his one week before he goes with me to go to Disney with me is family I don't know if this is exactly what we're supposed to put in here and we really don't know exactly how long he has left he could have a week 2 weeks maybe two months at the most we're just looking for help to make his last wish happened for him
Landshark - 9-Nov-16 @ 1:50 AM
My sister is slowly getting weaker and weaker from cysticfibrosis she needs to get stronger for a lung transplant but her lungs are holding her back so basically she cant get strong enough for the transplant and shes slowly dying at the age of 25 ...please help all she wants to do is go to world aquarium in St.louis but we dont have the equipment for transport im only 18 and theres not much else i can do at this point.
Robby - 4-Nov-16 @ 6:23 PM
My boyfriend was diagnosed in November with stage 4 colon and liver cancer they're just stop chemo and told him that he doesn't have much longer hospice has just started coming to the house on Tuesday and there's a few places he would like to see for he passes away we're trying to come up with the money to make that happen we have been saving for vacation the last 6 months we've had to use most of it because of him being sick right now we have $200 save to it looking for some miracle to make it happen thank you for your time if you know of anybody or anyway anything let me know
Landshark - 4-Nov-16 @ 10:50 AM
My dear friend has stage 4 lung cancer and they just gave her 3-5weeks. Her only daughter is in new york and my friend is in fresno. Her daughter justg
charlotte - 2-Nov-16 @ 5:05 AM
A few months ago my dad collapsed in a foreign country and was rushed to hospital to have major surgery to remove a brain tumour.. it's nearly been 2 months exactly and he is expected to have 2-7 months to live..I am only 15 and my brother is only 13.. my father isn't old infact he turns 50 in January and I just want him to have the best Christmas and best time possible. I am trying my hardest to save money to take him somewhere for the day to just simply make the best of the time he has left, if there is anything I can get help with It would be amazing.
Hannah keefe - 20-Oct-16 @ 8:52 PM
After a year of majors ops, endless radiotherapy and 7 hours a day chemo sessions my husband aged 51 was told he was now terminal cancer and looking at months, telling our 8 year old was heartbreaking, we are trying to make each day count, doing family trips and days out, taking photos and making memorys. I woul. Love to furfil my husband and sons shared dream of playing darts on the lakeside stage , my thoughts and prayers are with you all x
sarah - 4-Oct-16 @ 10:13 PM
I have mainly set up this page to try and help my partner Tina Hudson, fulfil some of her bucket list. She has Terminal Cancer, and has been managing it for around 4 years now, with treatment. We get out and about when we can do, some weeks are a no go as she isn't up to it. She did have cancer before i met her, and after a mastectamy, recovered and was given the all clear, but in 2011/12, the cancer came back, this time more aggressively. Would love to take her to Las Vegas as she has dreamed of going over for a long time, and also New York at Christmas time. We know we would need to take a nurse with us too to help look after her and make sure she is okay. She copes very well when she is having her good weeks, and makes the most of the time she has, visiting family when we can do, and to go to the cinema too, even though it is uncomfortable for her at times, and she sometimes falls asleep, but is so happy to get out and about while we can. Even with limited funds, we do the best that we can do, I have even given up work to look after her full time. She enjoys once a week going to the local Marie Curie Hospice for day therapies and to meet friends that she has made. I know she'd love to meet her favourite Actor, Kevin Costner (probably never happen) and she would also love to meet David Coulthard, the ex F1 racing Driver. Please help if you can do, thank you
Gary - 11-Aug-16 @ 10:14 PM
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