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Granting Last Wishes of the Terminally Ill

By: Elizabeth Grace - Updated: 19 Oct 2019 | comments*Discuss
 
Terminal Illness Support Wishes Happy

Those who are helping a loved one with a terminal illness often hope to offer more than love and support; they also want to understand the person’s last wishes in order to grant them some happy moments. There’s a feeling of urgency when time is short, so fulfilling the dying wishes of a friend or family member often becomes a top priority.

Unfulfilled Dreams of the Terminally Ill

Most people have a list of things that they hope to do “someday,” but for those with a terminal illness, someday may never come. Of course, no one, even the healthiest amongst us, can know how much longer we will live, but once someone has been made aware that their time is limited, their unfulfilled dreams may take on a new importance. “Someday” has to be right now. Those closest to a terminally ill patient may want to inquire as to any wishes that have yet to be fulfilled and then offer their support in trying to give their loved one a chance to achieve their goals.

Organisations that Grant Wishes for the Terminally Ill

There are a number of organisations that strive to grant last wishes for terminally ill children and adults. Some of these are quite well-known and can be quickly located by performing an Internet search using the words, “granting wishes for the terminally ill.” Other, smaller groups may be available, too, but may not be quite as easy to locate. Sometimes, churches, civic organisations, and other local groups unite to raise funds for a member of their community, in order to allow them to experience their dreams and leave their loved ones with happy memories.

Simple Wishes

When we think of helping someone with a terminal illness to fulfil their last wishes, we often envision extravagant holidays, visits with celebrities, or wildly adventurous experiences, but for many, their wishes are quite simple. Many people hope to have a family reunion, go on an aeroplane ride, ride a horse, learn to play a musical instrument, or other such uncomplicated experience. None of these wishes would be especially difficult or expensive to achieve, but they would require some planning. Only by asking someone with a terminal illness what they’d still like to experience can loved ones begin to make arrangements to grant those last wishes. Most people are eager to be helping someone find as many happy moments as possible, but they just don’t know where to begin.

Making Peace and Tying up Loose Ends

Some last wishes have nothing to do with experiencing new things, but instead are all about achieving peace of mind. Family squabbles, long lost loves, and unexpressed emotions can leave people feel uneasy, worried that they will leave without tying up important loose ends. For others, their concerns are for their survivors and assuring that they will leave their loved ones with sufficient finances to support them throughout the bereavement period and beyond. Finally, some only feel a sense of peace once they’ve seen to their funeral and burial arrangements, choosing to personally preplan their services.

Last wishes of the terminally ill are likely to be as unique as the individuals themselves, with no two people hoping for exactly the same experience. In the end, what matters most is that terminally ill patients are given opportunities to express their desires and then to be offered caring support from those that matter to them the most.

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Hi my friends father in law is in the last stage of cancer and dont know if he will be here for xmas and he would love someone on Christmas morning to dress up as Santa for his 3 young grandchildren to go round and tell them granddad sent him as he now in heaven it really sad but this is the only thing he wants please can any one help
Nicky - 19-Oct-19 @ 9:15 PM
Hi all, my dad has an on going fight with prostate cancer and cancer in his bones. He has been through chemotherapy for the prostate, and had started radium for the terminal cancer in his bones but been told it isn't working so treatment has stopped. He has found out that he cannot have any more treatment as his body is not strong enough to cope. He is now currently in a position where unless he gets his strength back there is nothing that can be done. Although he does not have a bucket list as such, I would just like for him to experience new things and live life to the full because we do not know how long he has left. He has been mentally destroyed through this fight and I'd just like to see him happy. If anyone can help in any way please contact me. Thanks for your time.
Jon - 22-Sep-19 @ 2:03 PM
I was wondering if you would be able to help. My dad (62) Tonyhas metastatic advanced prostate cancer. This has spread to the bones in his spine, ribs, forehead and right femur. My dad has always wanted to go to the island sark: Sark is a part of the Channel Islands in the southwestern English Channel, off the coast of Normandy, France. It is a royal fief, which forms part of the Bailiwick of Guernsey, with its own set of laws based on Norman law and its own parliament. It has a population of about 500. Sark has an area of 2.10 square miles. My mum and I are unable to pay for him to go and this is the only thing he wants to do. He’s always wanted to experience life without cars and traffic no street lights and seeing all the stars in the sky. He is desperate to go. If you would be any help please get back to me. Or give me some advice on what I can do or other people who can help.
Libby - 20-Sep-19 @ 5:11 PM
Hi , my mum is 55 on October the 8th and I really really need to get her to the northern lights . She was diagnosed 10 years ago with stage 3b ovarian cancer . Over the years she's had 5 lots of major surgeries where they have had to remove various secondary infected internal organs (liver / bowel etc ) and she's never complained once ... she has under gone 16 different bouts of chemotherapy and 4 radiotherapy all whilst raising her 4 young granddaughters whose mother sadly passed away ..over the last 3 years she's been to sick (or just had surgery) to see the northern lights and now this year is very important that she does as we've had the news today that we're coming to the end and there nothing more to offer except support. Please make her wish come true or point me in the right direction on where to help as I'm desperate for her to fulfill her top of the buck list dream x
Gem - 20-Sep-19 @ 3:34 AM
My granddaughter has been diagnosed with brain stem cancer.In the Spring she was given 6 months to a year to live.Lexi is 21 years old, loves animals and mostly competing with her horse in Wisconsin. When I asked her what she always wanted to do, she replied:Go to the Houston TX rodeo.It might be in December. I am hoping someone can grant her last dream.Thank you! Barb Zegar 651-354-9992.My email address is above.
Lexi - 28-Aug-19 @ 5:46 PM
We are a family who has just heard the devastating news that one of our sisters has terminal cancer and 6 months ago was given 12 months to live. We are a very close family so I would just like to tell you a bit about Joy our sister. She is 58 years old and has always been the person who looks after everyone else growing we had a brother with Muscular Dystrophy she was always the one to care of him the most, from school she worked at Lee Castle Hospital for handicapped children and Adults. When her first child was born he was 2 months early as a result suffers with Cerebral Palsy he has gone through many operations but is now with her help a strong adult who works and owns his own property . Joy wants to re-new her wedding vows and we are looking for a plain white wedding dress accessoriesshoes etc the weddings is on the 14th of September 2019 so 3 weeks time due to the time restraint any suggestions?
Gloria - 27-Aug-19 @ 8:30 PM
My partner has terminal pancreatic cancer, our 2 youngest are blackpool fc fans we travel when we can, I would love for them to share an stadium and meet the player to create special memories for our children, he is also an lifelong alice Cooper fan, and has always wanted to meet him, if either would be possible it would mean so much to us as a family
Twinkletoes77 - 20-Aug-19 @ 9:29 AM
Hi My father has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. The hospital can give him no treatment, they reckon he only has 2 to 3 months to live. The top off his bucket list is to have a tour round Glasgow Rangers Ibrox park with his 2 grandsons. Is there anything you can do to help this dream come true. Regards John
Jock 1943 - 15-Jul-19 @ 7:36 PM
My uncle has just been diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer has been given 6 months to live there’s nothing doctors can too has it’s too advanced.Would love to be able to give him and my Aunt one last little break to the seaside making lasting memories please can you help
Nicky - 6-Jul-19 @ 3:25 PM
My uncle has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer been given 6 months to live has there’s nothing they can do for him . Would love for him and my Aunt to be able to go on one last seaside holiday to make precious memories whilst he’s still able to please can you help
Nic19 - 6-Jul-19 @ 3:22 PM
My uncle has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer has been given 6 months to live would love for him and my Aunt to go on one last seaside holiday before he gets too ill has there’s nothing that can be done for him please can you help
Nic19 - 6-Jul-19 @ 3:19 PM
Hi I suffer from Scleroderma an illness that causes the organs to stiffen and tighten. 5 years ago I lost my beloved son to leukaemia at 23. I have never been out of this country or flown. My son paid for a holiday to Spain for us both but I was unable to get my passport in time. My scleroderma is in the later stages now and going downhill fast. Last year I was diagnosed with lung cancer.I would dearly love a holiday with my kids and grandkids, it doesn't have to be abroad anywhere would be fine. I feel like I broke my promise to my dead son that I would go
suzy - 1-Jul-19 @ 12:32 AM
My husband is dying with lukecemaia I payed 117pound towards taking on northernbell trainee didn't no he had cancer he would love to do it before he dies but I cannot afford it he is 85 and worked hard all his life can any one help for fill his lasted wish thankyou
She - 24-Jun-19 @ 6:44 PM
Hi my mum is in the final stages of copd and has spend 8 weeks out of the last 12 in hospital, she would really love a day out to the local animal pk with me and her grandchildren making memories, she has never been out with the youngest one and she's worried he will forget her, I just wondered if it would be possible for help in making this come true for her, Many thanks Lou
Lou - 5-Jun-19 @ 9:26 PM
I’m 37 I have terminal cancer of the breast, bones and brain I could die at anytime up to 2 and half years, my wish is to marry my fiancé next year and have all the family and my children together before I die please get in touch
Angie - 26-May-19 @ 12:52 PM
My friend Julie Egan is terminally ill with lung cancer don’t know how long she as, but as always wanted to go to Paris. I don’t know how to go about someone who’s terminally ill and getting their wish. Could you please contact me thank you
Pinkabella - 25-Sep-18 @ 7:10 PM
My husband as brain cancer and lung cancer it’s turmoil not sure how long he has left he is only 47 we are in shock
Mo - 4-Jul-18 @ 1:03 PM
Maheen has cornelia de lange syndrome with lots of severe disability and heart disease. She never went to see Disney land Paris to meet her favourite Disney characters. She will love to enjoy her special trip to Disney land Paris. If you please give her this opportunity to enjoy her special life time memorable few days.
Maheen khan - 29-May-18 @ 4:35 AM
Maheen has cornelia de lange syndrome with lots of severe disability and heart disease. She never went to see Disney land Paris to meet her favourite Disney characters. If possible can you give her this opportunity to enjoy her special trip to Disney land. LOG
Maheen khan - 29-May-18 @ 4:31 AM
Hi, I have a friend that has been diagnosed with cancer of the windpipe, I believe it is a new cancer and is going down in the cancer books, they have only offered him 4 lots of chemotherapy and he has had his 2nd one, he is becoming weaker, he and his partner have decided to get married, she really don't know how she is going to cope without him and is trying to make memories for him, one of the things that he wants to do is to meet or talk to Robbie Williams. I tried to contact him on twitter and I had a message from what I thought was Robbie but it was some fake guy who lead me on telling me he was going to meet them. I only realised this week that he was fake and had to tell them both it really hurt and disappointed them. Please can you help, I really don't think he has much time left
Shelly - 27-May-18 @ 6:02 PM
Hi my long time friend Jason kessna was took into hospital 3 weeks ago he is 48years old , with severe headaches , unfortunately he was diadnised with front and back brain tumours inside the brain and lung cancer , there is nothing they can do for him and have gave him life expectancy of 2-4 months , his family just want to take him away for a break to the sea side somewhere to make him a few memories
Jules - 10-May-18 @ 2:04 AM
My husband is terminal ill and has been told that his heart condition is getting worse . He used to work as a roado for queen so his last wish would be to see Bryan may one last time and to speak to him. And we don't know how much time we have left. He is getting weaker by the day as he's been bedbound for three weeks.
Bella knox - 17-Apr-18 @ 6:45 PM
I would like to make my new husband last wish to meet bryan may again one last time so that he can say goodbye to the memories of his roaddo days. He's terminal ill with multiple health issues and at the minute is bedbounddue to his colon cancer . We don't know how long he has left as it is his heart condition that will sadly take him .
Bella blot - 13-Apr-18 @ 3:52 PM
My mother-in-law has Adenocarcinoma and we don't know how long she has but it's incurable. Sadly one wish she would like to fulfill is to see and meet Kylie. Ironically we found out she's touring but when we looked at tickets they are £165 each and don't know if she would still be here! That's so expensive and we can't afford it plus I could never arrange for her to meet Kylie. I feel hopeless so we're just fulfilling her other wish which is fish & chips at her favourite chippy every Saturday.
Kawasaki - 10-Apr-18 @ 8:14 AM
Hi my sister is terminally ill with cancer and is a raising her 4and half year old granddaughter on her own we have been told that its now a matter of months she has to live her wish is for a weeks holiday with her granddaughter to pontins or another type of holiday camp site so that they can spend time and hopefully get some really good memories
Val - 17-Mar-18 @ 10:58 AM
Hi my mom name is Evelyn iler she is 76yrs has liver cancer we don't know how long she has not very long I don't think. She wants to have her family bills to be pd off and her handicap daughter will not have no parents to take care of her just her sister we life with.we can't work she can't drive a car.she needs a two seater scooter mobiliy power buggy to get around in outside.also mom want s a home with three master bedroom one with a bathroom of her own in bedroom. And two other bathrooms pet friendly fenced in yard no stairs inside or out two car garage pd in full with this house were no rent no payments she wants her family secured before she passes away.we tryed keep her alive but cancer wins hands down She worked so hard now she can't finished it please help my mom fill her wish.we love to live in mount Vernon illinois with free in Clare with no bills and no worries about money coming in her handicap daughter will be alone living with justed her sister and her husband she needs money in her account and so does her sister please help me fill my mom wish come true for real she in hospital SSM Hospital. Evelyn don't know how long she be there this is a surprise for her she doesn't know I'm asking on her behalf she doesn't like computers.please help shave a wish come true for her thank u. Sincerely connie her daughter.
Connie - 8-Mar-18 @ 8:02 PM
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Hi my name is Mrs wendy l am married to my childhood sweetheart Paul he's always been the home maker but in 1995 somethink terrible happen he ended up with a brain tumour of whip the drs only gave him 12 months to live we was all heartbroken including my two children who at the time was very small. He had a six week course of radiation as was given the all clear we all thought fantastic we can get on with our lives again. But a year ago we was given another blow not only the tumour came back but another one also grew in his Clivas which is rapidly growing my husband had deteriated rapid. He can't walk without aids and he no longer want to go out. Both of our children are grown up and left home where I'm caring for him. Our biggest problem we face is Pauls always have done our DIY in our home and he's said he would love to replace our patio doors as the runner that slides the door is not working and we can open and shut the the door as it's very heavy and not working properly paul loves his garden but he only looks through to the garden through the window. My home is council but because we put them in we have to put them right. Also money is very tight I would love to get this done for him to put his mind at ease if anything bad goes wrong for him I know it's playing on his mind as he's says everyday how he wishes he can have the strength just to put this right before he dies which could be any day so we was wondering if you know of anyone who can help us we would be so grateful beyond words. Thanks for kindness even if it's just a lending ear. Mr and Mrs leggett it would be a great surprise for Paul so I've left you my number to contact me. Thanks

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TerminalIllness - 26-Feb-18 @ 3:52 PM
Hi my name is Mrs wendy l am married to my childhood sweetheart Paul he's always been the home maker but in 1995 somethink terrible happen he ended up with a brain tumour of whip the drs only gave him 12 months to live we was all heartbroken including my two children who at the time was very small. He had a six week course of radiation as was given the all clear we all thought fantastic we can get on with our lives again. But a year ago we was given another blow not only the tumour came back but another one also grew in his Clivas which is rapidly growing my husband had deteriated rapid. He can't walk without aids and he no longer want to go out. Both of our children are grown up and left home where I'm caring for him. Our biggest problem we face is Pauls always have done our DIY in our home and he's said he would love to replace our patio doors as the runner that slides the door is not working and we can open and shut the the door as it's very heavy and not working properly paul loves his garden but he only looks through to the garden through the window. My home is council but because we put them in we have to put them right. Also money is very tight I would love to get this done for him to put his mind at ease if anything bad goes wrong for him I know it's playing on his mind as he's says everyday how he wishes he can have the strength just to put this right before he dies which could be any day so we was wondering if you know of anyone who can help us we would be so grateful beyond words. Thanks for kindness even if it's just a lending ear. Mr and Mrs leggett it would be a great surprise for Paul so I've left you my number to contact me. Thanks
Wendywoo - 23-Feb-18 @ 8:30 PM
I am a huge fan of Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers have been all my life as that is who I grew up listening to.I have always wanted to see Dollywood since I came across an article I believe it was about the Christmas lights how they are lite up until Jan 3d. I know it isn't to long before it ends and I'm hoping and praying this wish will come true. I don't have much longer due to end stage for severe gastroparies and the Dr telling me it was time to stop the TPNand fluids and call in the family I just wish not to meet her but to just be able to go to this one last event.just me and my husband as we could never afford a trip like that I've been checking on pricing for hotels and cabin rentals as sometimes they give package deals if you book with them I have been doing this day and night until I can't think about anything else but what a beautiful memory that would be I can't afford the gas either please let me know it you can help me I am on Southern Care Recency hospice out of GA my number is (478)233-8416 or you can reach my husband at (478)250-3386 he is my pimary care taker now when he is off work and my daughter Christina (478)233-7114 who was my primary caretaker but had to get a job as she is raising two kids my grandson who is 3 and my grand daughter who is my other daughters child she is 13 and with the prices to get in and food rooms etc I won't ask for all that help plus need the get away
Dorene - 30-Dec-17 @ 2:36 PM
Hi, I have very very recently been told I have Stage 4 cancer that is in my lungs and gone to my brain and liver. The cancer doctor also thinks that I have it iis my bones.I’ve was told this last week, Friday the 15-12-2017, at Oncology that I have s few weeks to a few months to live. I do not know how to do this make a wish thing however I would really really like to have my Mims, Dads and baby sisters grave fixed up as my Dad hasn’t even got a Head stone in it!!!I would also like to be cremated and choose my own Urn Etc asap. I am 57 years old have 3 adult children. Does anyone know how you donghis make a wish thing? Thank you
Carol - 16-Dec-17 @ 7:25 PM
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